“Working out…with your boyfriend.”

They say couples that lift together, stay together. And of course, I hope that’s true! But it’s not necessarily the reality. I mean, I love my boyfriend very much. But I remember a day, two years ago so vividly that it could have happened yesterday or an hour ago. A day that hopefully I am not alone in experiencing. The day my world imploded – he wanted to workout with me. Once I picked myself up of the floor and asked “what happened”, he reiterated his novel idea to me once again. A second black-out later, and I managed to…

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Gym-timidation

Why do we find the gym intimidating, when we are all there for the same reasons? Someone on Twitter last week mentioned that they wanted to get bigger purely so they could enter the free weights section of the gym without feeling inadequate. Wow. I mean, fair play it’s motivation but why? This then wasn’t the first time I’d heard this. Recently, the January newcomers had filled all the gyms with people looking to cash in their New Year’s resolutions and I spoke to a few friends who were taking the opportunity to turn over a new leaf. One friend…

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Green Eyed Monster…

Envy, envy is a beautiful thing. I mean, it’s not. It’s not AT ALL. But it is one crazy emotion. Or state of mind? DISCUSS. I get envious of boys who, I think, are better looking and more buff than me. Which is a broad bunch. I know I have a new picture every month for my column, and it seems like I’m super-photo-happy guy but I’m incredibly insecure. So I look at other guys I admire and I get envious. Or, I want to sleep with them. Is is the classic gay conundrum? “Do I want to be him…

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Dysmorphin’ Time

I blame WWE Wrestlers for my “wanting to get bigger”. In particular Kurt Angle-circa-2000. I blame him and his WWE colleagues (then WWF) and their oversized, hugely muscled physiques and perky bubble butts looking amazing in lycra singlets. I’d also like to blame; Wolverine, Thor, Lion-O, He-Man, Dean Cain as Superman, Jonny Wilkinson and the whole 2003 England Rugby World Cup winning team and, well you get the picture. They are the reason I started lifting weights. When I was 14 years old I bought my first set of dumbbells, colourful plastic ones from Argos along with a cheap bench…

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